PinnedOur Black Gay Diaspora PodcastSitting at the high square table in the breakfast nook of my friends Cayetano and Jenny’s south Los Angeles home, my feet dangled a few inches above the floor as I contemplated the launch of Episode 23 of Our Black Gay Diaspora Podcast, featuring Gamal ‘G’ Turawa, the founder and…Podcast5 min read
Oct 6, 2021Existing Behind a Mask of Workplace ComplacencyJust after lunch on Friday, September 6, 2019, I walked by the small office of my supervisor for the last time. As I entered the dimly lit elevator bay, laughter crashed out of the accounting department across the way. The right elevator doors slid open as soon as I pressed…LGBTQ5 min read
Aug 2, 2021Being Gay and My Relationship with My MotherMany gay men talk about the closeness, the special bond they have with their mothers. “…being gay might be a factor that makes some mothers and sons even closer (Psychology Today, 2011).” Many of my gay friends have shared with me that their mother is their best friend. Of my…Gay4 min read
Apr 16, 2021Assumptions Around “Acting White”“You don’t have to keep talking like that. There are no white people around.” Laughter erupted in the cramped copy room, as the cluster of African-American work colleagues congratulated the accounting clerk on what she said to me. …Racism5 min read
Apr 1, 2021Dating as a Black Gay ExpatriateI’m an American who’s been in Europe since October 2019 as a digital nomad, mainly in Stockholm, Sweden. This is after years of employment in a corporate environment as a graphic designer. Now as a freelance designer, writer, and podcast producer, I look for ways to promote international awareness. One…Gay5 min read
Mar 21, 2021How James Baldwin Saved MeMidnight on Christmas morning 1979 in Phoenix, Arizona was not like the ones before, when it was just me and mama. I didn’t dream of the presents I’d open later in the day. I wasn’t thinking of toys like The Six Million Dollar Man or Pulsar action figures that Santa…Acceptance5 min read
Published in The Shadow·Jan 22, 2021My American IdealAn American expatriate shares his love of his home country in conjunction with the changes he hopes will come with a new president. — On a cross-country train in Sweden, heading to Malmö from Stockholm, I watched the inauguration of President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris. As I watched the country’s first female vice president get sworn in, enjoyed Lady Gaga’s rendition of “The Star-Spangled Banner” and listened to Jennifer Lopez sing…Inauguration Day5 min read
Dec 17, 2020Black Gay Creatives of the 1980sDespite never being celebrated within mainstream black and LGBT media outlets like Ebony, Jet, and The Advocate magazines, black gay men throughout the 1980s utilized their creative talents to promote, celebrate and challenge others’ perceptions of being black, male, and gay during the decade. …Black Gay Men5 min read
Published in The Shadow·Dec 13, 2020Climbing Up To Meet MyselfVarious shades of charcoal gray shadows surrounded me in the room’s morning darkness. My heart thudded in the center of my chest as I pinched the bridge of my nose, an attempt to stave off the hot tears threatening to spill down the sides of my face. Rolling left into…Memoir5 min read
Nov 19, 2020The Joys and Challenges of Being IntrovertsAs part of our intro, “the joys and challenges of being introverts” is what my co-host Jenny and I say at the beginning of each episode of the Wallflowers in Bloom podcast. Debuting on April 1, 2020, we encourage those who identify as introverts to live their best lives. …Introvert4 min read